Many depressed children can have a hard time making
friends or having normal friendships because of their social anxiety. First I want to make clear the difference
between social anxiety and autism.
Children with social
anxiety have the capacity to
interact normally with other children and adults. They want to interact and have friends
but they can’t because they can be so afraid of rejection. They’re afraid
they may say or do something weird or stupid.
They’re afraid they’ll be made
fun of. They’re afraid of embarrassing themselves in some way.
When a child feels this fear
and anxiety her heart may race. Her face can become flushed red and
sweaty. She may tremble. Her voice may sound shaky and nervous. These physical symptoms of anxiety can cause
even more embarrassment which can cause
more anxiety to the point where the child may have trouble breathing or
moving. It’s the fear response gone
haywire.
Most people have heard of the fight or flight response. When a person experiences danger they need to
prepare to fight that danger or run away but some people, including children with anxiety may be overly
sensitive to fear and they may feel
threatened in situations that aren’t physically dangerous but seem dangerous emotionally. The fear
of rejection from the world is a
powerful and emotionally dangerous fear.
When a child with social
anxiety is put in a social situation
she may try to hide anywhere she can like behind a parent or in a corner
or behind furniture. She may become so
anxious she freezes up and doesn’t know what to do. She may cry, struggle to get away or have
a tantrum.
These children may try to avoid social situations
anyway they can, saying they are sick or have to go to the bathroom and because
of this, children with social anxiety may have trouble attending school. I know I missed more days than the average
child because of my anxiety.
A child may be anxious in certain social situations like public
speaking or they may be anxious in most all social situations. Social
anxiety can cause a lot of problems
with a child’s age appropriate social development. They may seem younger or more immature
than other children their age.
Anxiety often contributes to depression
in children and vice versa. Many times
depression and anxiety are co-occurring and both may be diagnosed.
I have said before that I began suffering from depression when I was 5 years old but I
also suffered from anxiety. When I was a child I was painfully shy.
I didn’t want to talk too or interact with people I didn’t know
well. I was afraid people would laugh at me. I had very low self-esteem and no self-confidence. I thought I was weird and ugly. I thought no one could really like me because
I was too different.
Symptoms of depression like low self-esteem and low self-confidence can cause a
lot of fear about how the child thinks the world sees her.
It’s a powerful fear of a
world where she thinks she doesn’t belong. I know from experience it’s a very painful
fear and anxiety no child should have to suffer but shy, depressed children do
suffer. With help they can overcome
their pain. They just need to be
identified so they can get help.
Do you think schools
should assess children for anxiety? I welcome any
comments. I just ask that you be
respectful. My next post will be about
separation anxiety.
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